Ella: I can’t find Eddie anywhere he is just gone?
Mia: Maybe a giant took him
Catherine: A giant wouldn’t fit in our house.
Mia: He would bend over
Sophia: No, he would just take the roof off
Catherine: But how would he put the roof back
Sophia: He’s a giant!
Yesterday I was cleaning the house when I overheard the girls in the playroom, they had fetched their doll which looks uncannily like Goldilocks and they were acting out the story, each of the triplets had assigned themselves a bear character, they were putting on the voices and getting the whole story almost perfect. I stood outside the door my heart bursting with love and pride and just enjoyed such a precious moment. I wonder if my girls will ever realise just how blessed they are to have forever playmates…
This morning I was feeling a tad strained and when I asked my husband to please go buy a loaf of bread so that I could make the lunches, I was very appreciative that he went so willingly and took two girls with him, though when they returned and I called from the kitchen for the loaf of bread so that I could finish the lunches I was informed that it was ‘here’ in the entrance hall. And he was right there it stood in the middle of the floor in the entrance hall, standing up-right and perfect, Kingsmill best-of-both Medium advertised proudly across it’s side. I don’t know what came over me, but I just had an overwhelming urge so I kicked it, the bag split and slices of bread rained down around everyone in the living room. Mia innocently asked ‘why did mommy do that?’
I think I just felt so overwhelmed and annoyed at having to do so much!
In a time pre-children I would clean my home to a point of obsessive behaviour and was exceptionally proud of my home! I now realise what an utter luxury that action was, I’m now happy when everything is just put away and if I’ve had the time to hoover and dust. Deep cleaning is definitely a thing of the past and most of the time it feels like an utter waste of time because just as you complete scrubbing the floor on your hands and knees the kids have discovered how much fun shoe polish can be on light hardwood floors! It’s all just a stage :-)
The girls are at the stage where they are able to buckle their own seatbelts and my parenting style has always been to let the girls discover and do for themselves, so when we go anywhere the girls get themselves into their car seats and buckle themselves in and I just check everyone is safe (definitely easier on the back than having to crawl around the back of the people carrier). Lately Catherine has become very stubborn about doing her buckle in a timely fashion, so I said that if the next time we went somewhere she wasn’t the first one buckled in there would be consequences!!! And in the usual rush of getting out of the door I had kind of forgotten the threat, but as they stood waiting for me to open the car door, my eldest whispered to the other two to take their time and let Catherine be the first so that she would not get into trouble. My heart broke at the love shown in that simple act and at the practical solution reached by my eldest.
The day we found out we were expecting triplets was at our 12 week scan, my husband was overjoyed, I was incredulous and full of anxiety. The scan technician said that they were a midwife run unit and thus unable to help us and that was that, we were sent on our merry way, no information, no consolation for me or congratulations for my husband. We called the whole family and they thought it must be April 1st! And then I turned to the internet, though the information I found there filled me with fear - statistics that were less than favourable! And so as not to add to the anxiety I decided that I would not return - and now I wish I had not been so hasty, I have since found the forums and advice invaluable. I just wish I had known more then!
Today I was fifteen minutes early to pick up the girls from pre-school so I took a drive out on the country road that goes past their school, it brought back so many memories of when they were younger and had given up day time sleeps, way too soon! I would take them on little car journeys through the countryside so that the car would put them to sleep, especially on those days when I absolutely needed a break and knew that if they didn’t have a little nap, bath time and supper time would be manic.
When I think back on the early days I am amazed at how we coped, but somehow one does just manage!
Today we attended the birthday party for my husbands granny, a truly remarkable woman. She has seen nearly a century of birth’s, marriages, deaths, war, love, peace. She buried her husband Sir Charles nearly three decades ago, was awarded medals for her bravery in the second world war as a spy and today she sat quietly whilst all around her, her children, grandchildren and great-grandchildren came to honour her and the 96 years she has lived and loved on this earth. Happy Birthday Bonne Maman!
This morning Mia came through to our bedroom whilst all the others were playing in their bedroom, she is not feeling too well so we gave her some Calpol and lots of cuddles - my heart just broke with the feeling that each of our children deserve to be singletons if even just for a few minutes! She basked in the delight of having two parents all to her self and loved the fact that she was lying in the middle, though this simple pleasure only lasted mere moments as soon Sophia and Catherine came clambering up on to our bed. Catherine stood on Mia’s foot and that was the end of that!